The Enemy finds many ways to try and destroy marriages. What are four of the many ways that the Enemy uses to attack marriages?
Lack of Trust
Trust is part of the foundation structure of any marriage and when trust is lacking, there is doubt, fear, and uncertainty in all areas of the marriage. We should hold no secrets with our marriage partner and when we do, we either don’t trust them or we are hiding something from them. The Enemy would love nothing more than to create an atmosphere of mistrust and suspicion between the marriage partners. I have known couples who check one another’s email, text messages, and voice mail without their knowing it. That is a deadly sign that trust is missing from their relationship, a relationship that should be the most trustworthy of all on earth.
This scourge may be the single, greatest contributing factor in couples lacking sexual satisfaction. With each passing exposure to pornographic material, the person who is addicted increasingly becomes more dissatisfied with their partner’s sexually satisfying them. Their pornographic addiction becomes like a drug; it takes increasingly graphic doses (or exposure) to satisfy the person until it becomes next to impossible for their mate to ever fully satisfy them again. When the innocent spouse continues to be neglected, their risk for having an affair increases because they are not being sexually fulfilled at home either. Also, pornography devalues women and men too as the rates of pornographic addictions are also increasing among women. The Enemy must love this because it is an addiction that he tempts them with and then he just sits back and watches them self-destruct.
With the economic uncertainty of the times and the growing debt among families, the tensions created by living on the edge of financial ruin greatly stresses the family and that is why money is one of the greatest causes for separation and divorce. Recent indicators are that families once again are increasing their debt which can only put families at greater risk for divorce. The Enemy wants you to spend freely today and don’t worry about tomorrow’s consequences.
With all of the recent news about violence in the home, domestic violence in the form of spousal abuse and child abuse is ripping families apart at the seams. Sometimes the combination of a lack of trust, pornography, adultery, financial difficulties, problematic children, all can contribute, but not excuse, an increase in domestic violence. When couples fail to put on the full armor of God, they are vulnerable to spiritual attacks and fail to resist the enemy and can become more like him…who was a murderer from the beginning (John 8:44).
The Enemy would love nothing more than to destroy the institution of marriage because marriages are the foundation of any nation and when the foundations crumble, so too will the nation. God help us all to live the model that Christ revealed to us; to love one another and to live lives of self-sacrifice. As Paul wrote, we ought not to think more highly of ourselves than we should (Rom 12:3); maybe even not think about ourselves at all and to “love one another in brotherly (and sisterly) affection” (Rom12:10) so my advice to you is as Paul’s is; “let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph 5:33).
May God richly bless you,
Pastor Jack Wellman
Orig. image by Thomas Leuthard