Here are four people I do not recommend seeking counsel or advice from when you’re faced with a difficult decision.
Your Best Friend
I know this sounds like a wrong choice because your best friend knows you probably better than anyone except your spouse or your parents, but getting advice from your best friend may not be in your best interest. They are highly prejudiced about you. For one thing, they might not even want you to take a risk or make such a difficult decision because they’re worried about you. Some of the worst advice I’ve ever received came from a best friend.
Again, they seem to have your best interests in mind, but do they really know enough about you and the decision that you’re about to make to help you do the right thing? Probably not. I think your neighbor may have good intentions, but some of the worst roads in history have been paved with the best of intentions.
When I say that family is some of the wrong people to get advice from, I mean your cousins, your uncle, or even your grandmother. Don’t get me wrong; they may give you the best counsel, but they might be a little too close to you to make an objective analysis of the difficult decision you have to make. Having said that, I always listen to my family, and the experience and wisdom of parents and grandparents are second to none, but maybe you can combine their advice with that of others.
Your Church Family
This is hard to say because most Christians I know have godly wisdom, but there is safety in a multitude of counselors (Prov. 11:14). That’s the key: The safety in counsel is with a multitude and not in one person alone, even if it’s a good Christian you know. Your church friends might think they know what’s best for you, but how well do they really know you outside of church?
You could also include co-workers, your brother or sister, and maybe even your parents. The wise thing to do is to seek godly counsel from a multitude of friends, family, co-workers, and perhaps even your pastor. There is safety in numbers. The point is, don’t rely on only one opinion when you are seeking advice when faced with a very difficult decision.
May God richly bless you,
Pastor Jack Wellman
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