5 Types of Guys That Christian Women Should Avoid

Here are five types of men that Christian women should avoid.

Self-Centered, Self-Focused

If it’s all about them, you might find that you always come in second, or third, or even fourth. If someone is only concerned about themselves and not others, you might be better off finding someone who is more concerned with the welfare of others than they are about themselves. A person should date or marry someone who puts God first and then you next. If the order is him, things, you, and lastly God, you’d be much better off without him. A person who is only concerned about themselves is not ready for marriage or even dating.


If you are considering dating a man but you notice his eyes are all over other women, including yourself, then you might not have the right man. A person who can’t control their eyes probably can’t control their lusts. I remember a woman who was considering marrying a man; however, she was concerned that he was flirting with waitresses, women at the checkout line, and just about any woman he saw. If this man has a set of wandering eyes, then how would it ever get better after marriage? The truth is, it might even get worse. Therefore, it’s best for Christian women to avoid men who are flirts and can’t control their eyes.

Not a God-Lover

If you are in a relationship with a man or considering a relationship with a man, you should see how serious he is about the things of God. If he isn’t concerned about sinful practices or obeying God, don’t just walk away–run as fast as you can. Unless someone is putting God first, they will never have a solid marriage. God is that third cord of a threefold cord that holds marriages together. Don’t be deceived into thinking that after marriage it will get better because it will likely only get worse.

No Trust

If you are considering dating someone but they are already jealous over you, think about this: They might be a clingy spouse who never allows you freedom because they’re always worried you’ll find someone else. Without trust, a relationship just won’t work. I remember hearing a woman tell me that her husband was always spying on her, checking her emails, and checking her phone messages and texts. She was miserable because she felt that her husband didn’t trust her enough to be gone for one hour without having to give a minute-by-minute report. This type of man would not be a good match for anyone, especially a Christian.

Still a Boy

There are many men, as well as women, who have never grown up. Some men who play video games for hours or are always interested in the next party the guys are having would not be a good fit for any woman. If he is always thinking about the next party to attend or the next video game that’s coming out, then you can see he’s going to be a boy in his behavior and thinking, even though he’s legally an adult. He’s not mature enough to even consider dating, not to mention marrying.


Don’t think that I have overlooked the five women that Christian men should avoid because that’s also published here in our daily devotionals. We’ll cover the women, too. But for sure, Christian women should avoid men who are self-centered and self-focused; men who are and don’t put God first; men who don’t trust you when you’re not there and have never grown up.

May God richly bless you,

Pastor Jack Wellman

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