Here are six women Christian men should avoid dating or, most certainly, considering for marriage.
Followup to our article 6 Men Christian Women Should Avoid.
A Woman Who Doesn’t Believe
This is the most important factor of all. Since we are commanded to not be unequally yoked with nonbelievers, then how much more so should a man not even consider dating someone who doesn’t believe (2 Cor 6:14)? A Christian man should never consider dating an unbeliever, just as no woman should ever think about dating a nonbelieving man. It’s foolish to think that you can date her and lead her to saving faith in Christ. This could certainly backfire on you.
Women Who Don’t Put God First
This may be one of the greatest factors for men to consider in not dating a woman. If a woman never puts God first, then she may be putting herself first. If she doesn’t put God first, then she’ll likely have you way down on her priority list, too. No woman or man, for that matter, who doesn’t seek God and His kingdom first and foremost (Matt 6:33) should ever be dated
Women Who Don’t Like Children
Men should avoid dating any woman who doesn’t like children. What happens if this arrangement leads to marriage and later on there are children born into your family? You can sense how she might be around children in church or in public, but you can also tell by her regard for children in general during conversations. There is nothing more revealing about a person’s character than the way they react to children when encountered.
Women Who Don’t Pray
If you are considering dating a woman but have never had any inclination that this woman prays, then this could be a sign that she would not be a good match for you. I believe that prayer is the pulse of the believer’s spiritual life, and if there is no prayer, there is no pulse.
Women Who Speak Ill of Their Parents
Do you know how this woman treats her mother? How does she speak about her father? Is there a good relationship with her parents? If you have started to date or are considering dating a woman, first meet her parents or ask her about her parents and see how she speaks about them. If there is no natural respect or love for her parents, maybe you could ask her why. No one has perfect parents, of course, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still try to honor them.
Women With Warning Signs
Another type of woman who men should not consider dating is one who drinks in excess or has a substance abuse problem. There are warning signs that are sometimes present, such as drinking early in the day or taking an inordinate amount of pills, even if they are prescribed. She may have a valid reason for taking medicine, but if you sense in your heart that something is wrong, ask her why she might be taking certain medications. There is nothing wrong with asking someone you are considering dating a few questions if you have concerns. A woman who’s not trying to hide anything shouldn’t have any hesitation in addressing your concerns.
Before a man dates any woman, be as sure as you can that she’s been born again and has shown fruits of conversion (John 15). Dating can often lead to marriage, but no marriage is always better than a bad one because it could lead to a potential divorce, and God never intended for a man and a woman to divorce, but to marry until death do they part.
May God richly bless you,
Pastor Jack Wellman
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